thinky thoughts about trans issues, coming from a rather good question;
if I make so bold as to enquire, please; as I recall you have children. One might assume then that at one time you were quite happy as a woman doing ‘woman things’.
What changed ?
Was I ever ‘happy as a woman?’ No, I never was–not about being female. I was happy, plenty, don’t get me wrong! I enjoy my vagina and my clit and my gspot– because hey, what’s not to like, yanno? And one reason I sound so snooty and intellectual now is because I found that the higher my IQ, and the more learning I did, the more ways I had to look at my unsolvable dilemma and keep sane. That which does not kill us…
This sound obnoxious, but I was very pretty. In fact I was a fashion model for most of my young adult life. And the whole time, I felt like a extra-successful drag queen.
And yanno, it’s easier to be what you don’t want to be, if you are successful at it and get lots of strokes for it, right?
**waves hi to Curtis**
Anyway, regardless of my dissatisfaction with my body, I did want children. And pregnancy was freaking strange, let me tell you. I loved being pregnant, and I loved my babies, and you wouldn’t meet a more devoted mommy than I was… because my body was leading, with the hormones and all. There are times when you really have to go with the flow and put away the rebellion for awhile.
One thought: which is uppermost in your mind when making love ?
Orgasms.
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Orgasms–LOL! You do keep your priorities sorted out!
You’re so inspiring. *g*
I love this line: “I felt like a extra-successful drag queen!”
I like how you can write so breezily and fun-spirited, and yet completely serious and well-thought out comments on extremely complicated and personal subjects that hold infinities of answers, unique to the individual.
I was reading about gender reassignment surgery, and stumbled across something that was terribly sad. Apparently, in Iran, the solution to homosexuality is gender reassignment surgery. Execution or surgery? Hmm. What a choice! There is a huge difference to feeling you are the wrong gender and your sexual orientation…
That makes me wonder, what about Kinsey’s scale? What if you are a level of gay? Oh gods! How does that fit in the government’s narrow little “theocratic standards of sexuality”? >_<
Edit: here’s the article
http://www.cbc.ca/arts/film/story/2008/08/26/f-homosexuality-iran-sex-change.html
The notion that any man who wants to be with men must be feminine, is as common as it is wrong…