while he gave me a ride to work. I was saying that it’s extraordinary how often someone shows up in the middle of the conversation to pronounce their opinions before they have any inkling of the issues.
Then I was beginning to tell him about some of the reactions that we’ve been seeing to con_or_bust , and before I could finish my first sentence he jumped right in with his opinion…
At which point I started laughing, and then he said "YOU ARE JUMPING ALL OVER ME!" and; "I HATE BEING MADE PART OF A GROUP!" and; "ALL I DID WAS ASK A QUESTION!" (which, if it were a question, was certainly not framed as one)
When I pointed out that it was a question which would have been answered if he had let me finish the sentence, he said "I’M NOT ONLINE! HOW WOULD I KNOW WHAT YOU GUYS ARE TALKING ABOUT!" When I pointed out that I’ve been talking about it offline, he said "I HATE BEING MADE PART OF A GROUP!" and "HOW WILL I LEARN IF I DON"T ASK STUPID QUESTIONS!" When I explained– at the top of my lungs by this point– that IF HE HAD LISTENED HE COULD HAVE ASKED A DIFFERENT STUPID QUESTION he… I want to say he figured it out, but we had another fifteen minutes of screaming before we agreed that his habit of interrupting has gotten worse, and he needs to get a hold on it.
Now it’s easy for me to forgive the guy, because after all, I love him. And I know just about where his own prejudices begin and end, and he probably has less race issues than I do– but he’s of the age of several of our other…. conversationalists shall we say… and this bad habit of assuming the right to explain… maybe it goes with the age.
But… yeah. We all hate being made part of a group. White guys don’t experience that so often.
And I was 15 mins late to work.