What I tell you three times is true
I guess the best thing about being an agony aunt on a large and chaotic forum system is that one will come up with better and batter ways to say things. This version kinda went over well; I have been talking a lot about the disconnect between the terms “Dom” and “sub” and the things [...]
Grammar Ouchies!
DEAR WELL-SEASONED SLASH WRITER: I could have loved your recent Spander; you are a helluva storyteller. But your grammar made it difficult to read comfortably. Please, get control of your punctuation. Half of your commas are placed where no comma belongs, and the other half are missing from the places they should be. Come on [...]
Well, there’s your trouble, then
There is a difference between what many women want, and expect, from BDSM– and byt BDSM I mean the whole kit and kaboodle of acronyms that describe WIITWD– and what many men want– and presumably, expect. The disparity can be summed up, I think, by these two excerpts. One is a BDSM erotic Romance, and [...]
On gender roles,
I had an amusing experience the other night, I went out to meet a couple for coffee– a mistress and her transgendered slavegirl– who is a sweetperson in her 70′s– older than her Mistress. I really enjoyed the conflation of genders and roles that played out over the evening! Jeannie, the slave, sometimes presents as [...]
On religious education
I was out last night, and my companions asked me if I were “spiritual,” which of course is code for “let us tell you how spiritual we are” The ROYAL We in this case, the couple were a Domme and her slave. I heard a lot about the steps on her path, and– damn. For [...]
oh those wacky gendergrammar police!
Apropos of a tweet which mentionedt; "A Gay Man Inside a Female’s Body" "A female what’s body?" Human? Female humans are called "women," unless the writer wanted to say that a gay man resides inside a female body. Which is a slightly different thing. And should not be spelled with a possessive ‘s’. http://dharma-slut.dreamwidth.org/122693.html | [...]
many miniposts ahead…
Although I tend to prefer my porn served up with some emotional context, a lot of women writers show the most abysmal idea of how men might possibly think. Honestly, most men fuck because they like fucking. Let me say that I’m about to use one of those dodgy arguments. "Some of my best friends…" [...]
Protected: Okay, I give. His name…
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Tags: pith and pungency
I’ll be working this out for a long time still
Regarding BDSM, and the way that Dom/Sub seems to have become the default dynamics description. I think this is very problematic. BDSM encompasses a large range of activities alongside the mental and emotional activities, and many people who are more interested in the physical stuff are getting–seriously– shaming messages that they are not Dominant, or [...]
Tags: bdsm, ego, pith and pungency
Let me introduce you to the clitoris
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