About warnings some more… and BDSM
Because some of us are really pissed off about labeling BDSM practices as "warnings."
Yep. Can’t blame us for that– its only been a few years that my sexuality has been considered other than deviance, or dangerous, or next door to being a rapist.
On the other hand, I don’t want to squick the hell out of a reader and drive them away from reading my other work. Right? We want to be read, right?
As it happens, there’s a perfectly simple solution, whereby a change in nomenclature will sooth my ruffled feathers and let my delicate flower friends know what to expect; I’m going to add a "contains these kinks" line into my headers.
For some people it might be a warning, for some of us it might be an inducement. Much like a thermometer gives us information but leaves it up to us whether to put on a sweater or not. No moral value attached.
Good idea!
That’s an excellent idea. Allows people to pick the flavor they like, avoid that which they don’t.
Good idea!
Good idea!
It’s always a good idea to warn when the kinks go beyond a few giggling attempts at play-bondage in fur-lined cuffs. *G* I like the thermometer idea a lot! Y’know—20% for mild bondage, 90% for watersports, etc. That could be a really great way to warn without having to get into spoiling verbiage!
That’s an excellent idea. Allows people to pick the flavor they like, avoid that which they don’t.
That’s an excellent idea. Allows people to pick the flavor they like, avoid that which they don’t.
It’s always a good idea to warn when the kinks go beyond a few giggling attempts at play-bondage in fur-lined cuffs. *G* I like the thermometer idea a lot! Y’know—20% for mild bondage, 90% for watersports, etc. That could be a really great way to warn without having to get into spoiling verbiage!
It’s always a good idea to warn when the kinks go beyond a few giggling attempts at play-bondage in fur-lined cuffs. *G* I like the thermometer idea a lot! Y’know—20% for mild bondage, 90% for watersports, etc. That could be a really great way to warn without having to get into spoiling verbiage!
Avoid nothing. Read it ALL! *evil giggle*
I draw the line at mpreg, though!
Think of it as giving a menu to people having dinner at your restaurant. Diners don’t just want to avoid their less-preferred foods; they also want to seek out their more-preferred foods. Please give me lots of garlic but no chili peppers, thanks! Some people are allergic to mushrooms, some people can’t handle hot spices, some people have a negative reaction to tomatoes. Nobody thinks, “I’m allergic to mushrooms” means “You’re evil if YOU like them.”
Yes, I know that people assign more value judgments to tastes in sex than they do to tastes in food. But I strive for a world in which the two are the same, and one way to bring about that world is to act as if things are that way now.
Waiter, one large pizza with BDSM on top. Oh, hell, make that double BDSM; it’s been awhile.
Would you prefer rope, leather, or handcuffs with that order ma’m?
What does the chef recommend this evening?
Avoid nothing. Read it ALL! *evil giggle*
I draw the line at mpreg, though!
Avoid nothing. Read it ALL! *evil giggle*
I draw the line at mpreg, though!
Think of it as giving a menu to people having dinner at your restaurant. Diners don’t just want to avoid their less-preferred foods; they also want to seek out their more-preferred foods. Please give me lots of garlic but no chili peppers, thanks! Some people are allergic to mushrooms, some people can’t handle hot spices, some people have a negative reaction to tomatoes. Nobody thinks, “I’m allergic to mushrooms” means “You’re evil if YOU like them.”
Yes, I know that people assign more value judgments to tastes in sex than they do to tastes in food. But I strive for a world in which the two are the same, and one way to bring about that world is to act as if things are that way now.
Waiter, one large pizza with BDSM on top. Oh, hell, make that double BDSM; it’s been awhile.
Would you prefer rope, leather, or handcuffs with that order ma’m?
What does the chef recommend this evening?
Think of it as giving a menu to people having dinner at your restaurant. Diners don’t just want to avoid their less-preferred foods; they also want to seek out their more-preferred foods. Please give me lots of garlic but no chili peppers, thanks! Some people are allergic to mushrooms, some people can’t handle hot spices, some people have a negative reaction to tomatoes. Nobody thinks, “I’m allergic to mushrooms” means “You’re evil if YOU like them.”
Yes, I know that people assign more value judgments to tastes in sex than they do to tastes in food. But I strive for a world in which the two are the same, and one way to bring about that world is to act as if things are that way now.
Waiter, one large pizza with BDSM on top. Oh, hell, make that double BDSM; it’s been awhile.
Would you prefer rope, leather, or handcuffs with that order ma’m?
What does the chef recommend this evening?
It’s totally an inducement for me. I love your work!
Thanks so much for the textnovel comment. I don’t much care for the short chapters either, but that’s part of the format and if you’re reading it on your phone, I guess it’s nice. But yes, they are all part of larger chapters.
It’s totally an inducement for me. I love your work!
Thanks so much for the textnovel comment. I don’t much care for the short chapters either, but that’s part of the format and if you’re reading it on your phone, I guess it’s nice. But yes, they are all part of larger chapters.
It’s totally an inducement for me. I love your work!
Thanks so much for the textnovel comment. I don’t much care for the short chapters either, but that’s part of the format and if you’re reading it on your phone, I guess it’s nice. But yes, they are all part of larger chapters.