I read a very good essay this morning, about the term "transgendered" and the difference between "gender" which, according to the writer is a cultural phenomenon meaning the host of behaviors that read as male or female to the majority of the world as opposed to "sex," which this writer uses to mean the biological functionality of procreation and reproduction.
Said writer went on to critique the behaviors that signal femininity or masculinity, and –really– did so very well. Writer pointed out that gender is illusory, and constructed and that we all pick and choose which bits we will use to construct our own illusion.
Writer also expressed the opinion that much of ultra-feminine behavior is destructive– to other women. And writer is justly proud of the fact that she rejected those behaviorism, giving an excellent example.
But, this writer seems to be writing from the point of view of a woman who is perfectly happy to be a vagina-bearing, non-penis-having, female of the tomboyish type. And she seems to have feel that the women who use that term "transgender" are happy enough with the vaginas they have, and only want to "act like men."
I don’t particularly want to "act like a man," as society defines manliness.
When I say I am transgendered, I mean that I wake up, each and every morning, grabbing for a piss hardon that does not exist. And I have no intention of going into surgery because there is no surgery that can fix that. That can give me a working, pissing, ejaculating, penetrating, penis.
I am a bisexual butch dyke, and I know all about ignoring the cultural constructs of gender. I’m good at it, and I can twist cultural perceptions around my little finger — but if somehow I were able to, I would leave my female identity, and the feminist principles I have fought for these fifty years, all behind along with the vagina I don’t really care so much about and that has defined my identity all this time.
I would be a campy queeny bi guy with a penchant for pink and paisley. I would not be a masculine man– but I would no longer be transgendered.1